The Soul Heals by Taking Responsibility for its Own Actions
How far are you willing to be twisted and pulled about? Does it stop when you simply fall down, or will you take a stand to stop it?
In life we walk many bridges and tight ropes, but when someone spins us with silliness it becomes increasingly challenging to make the right decisions.
Though we may feel this way it isn’t real. When the soul is fulfilling its role no one can spin us with silliness as we tip toe over bridges or walk across tight ropes.
It should be our goal to remind our soul that we are malleable; that we can assess the value of our relationships; that we can choose when we are manipulated; and that we have control over the ambient energy we release.
Reminding the Soul
Most people like to talk about how they were influenced or manipulated by others, yet seldomly do we address how we treat the feelings of other beings. We live in the “ME” culture. Everything must be soft and gentle for our sake, so we may avoid any kind of suffering. “I deserve this”, or “I was treated unfairly” are statements we all like to make.
As admiral Akbar would say “It’s a trap!” Just like his scene in Star Wars these thoughts are traps too. When we are caught in these snares we inevitably become the prey of self-victimhood. Even worse is when we begin to celebrate our hardship and hurt as though they were points or accolades. The more we indulge and reward the deification of our hardships the more intolerable, hateful, and bitter we become.
Life is challenging, this is a truth, and it will always be this way. Our existence never gets easier. Instead of embracing our agony we can develop life-tools to navigate our journey more effectively.
What are some tools we can use to address the stress we impose on our own existence? If we want to avoid the dizziness of our own duress we should consider embarking on these thought quests.
1. When the actions and statements of others burn our inside bits, we should remove ourselves from the situation. Once away we can take a breath, meditate and ponder what they said or did. This means avoiding emotional outbursts that may damage other people’s day. The hurt we feel in the moment may not be the emotions we experience later. Why set someone else’s day aflame over something we didn’t need to say? If we seek to have peace, then we must give it first by preemptively freeing others from our momentary hurt.
How do we remove ourselves from the situation? You can stand right where you are. The best way to bow out of a moment is to simply go silent. Take your spirit to a special place unrelated to the situation, show her to a fantastic forest or a magical field of your own mind, and give her a few flowers to smell.
A great tool you can use to do this is to imagine a picture frame inside your mind’s eye and insert a movie of a pleasant memory inside. Watch and indulge the positive energy of past experiences.
When I was going through chemotherapy I often employed this technique to escape the pain. I imagined a blue picture frame encasing a film of me performing push-ups against the concrete of a hot street. My eyes admired the soft sheen of my shaved head and the strength of a young man’s youth.
If you don’t have magical memories that you can easily access go out and make some.
Few people realize the effect we have on others, especially while we are zoomed in on ourselves. It is easy to get swept away in self-indulgence, I get caught up in it myself. Reflection and a consistent awareness of our Ambient Energy is the only way to prevent the spread of forest fires. We must actively take responsibility for our actions while listening to the sage advice of Smokey the Bear, because only you can prevent forest fires!
This doesn’t mean we should avoid every conflict or woe. Instead we should take the time to decide which kinds of emotions we show. The last thing we want to be is Sir Robin bravely running away on his quest for the Holy Grail.
Specifically we must address how we react and influence others with our emotions that have been fueled with negative energy.
Radiate goodness, strength, and power with confidence and you will attract the same.
2. We are responsible for how we allow others to manipulate us. God gave us free will, and with this gift was the burden of the Adversary. This is our inherent desire for darker things, impulsive behaviors, and selfishness. Its pull is what allows us to resist the divine and live our life by our own decisions. Like Sarah Connor said in The Terminator, “our fate is what we make”.
With our free will we have chosen to accept the manipulations others have imposed upon us. Once we begin to realize this it opens our treasure chest and allows us to gain access to old wisdom more valuable than gold.
With our free will we choose to accept and integrate their sweet whispers into our thoughts and actions. Effectively we have allowed ourselves to be manipulated. It was a choice, we could have resisted it, but we didn’t.
In the thick brush strokes of life most manipulations are encouraged without force. When we are threatened or coerced with violence free will is tossed out the window, because our survival imperative requires it. The threat of, or the application of bodily harm is not what I am addressing; nor am I discussing instances where we lack the ability to make sound judgments due to intoxication, medicines, injuries, or diseases. In those moments our mind is broken, and we lack the ability make reasonable decisions.
3. We should take the time to assess the value and return of our relationships. Determining the value of each relationship is no easy task. Bloggers and self-help gurus often provide supposedly easy to use formulas to help determine whether our return-on-investment is healthy. The unfortunate reality is that these equations do not account for the various types of relationships we have in our life. They also tend to focus in on a narrow window of time. In relationships they’re not always even, sometimes one person is putting in more energy, but then it seesaws in the other direction. No relationship is simple, and there is not a catch all approach to managing them.
4. We are malleable creatures, as children we were formed from clay and as we aged it hardened into stone. Like the days when we were young we can be remade. To do this we must become a sculptor of our own mind by chiseling away the elements that fail to move and inspire our time. With introspection and willful transformation we can shape our slab into a statue of our own design. Take a moment, think about the clay used to create the person you are today. Are you happy with what was made? What would you change? Who would you be if it could be reformed into your ultimate dream?
- Would you be the type who remained centered and grounded in what you believe?
- Would you broadcast your confidence with genuine passion and love for life?
- Would you stay true to yourself and be upfront about your values and intentions?
- Would you refrain from being emotionally reliant and outcome-driven by how others think or feel about you?
- Would you radiate authenticity and self-acceptance?
- Would you have a healthy internal dialogue?
- Would you refrain from comparing yourself with how others act and dress?
- Would you seize more opportunities and take more risks?
- Would you be more competitive?
- Would you have total faith and conviction in your beliefs, boundaries, and standards?
- Would you be more passionate, raw, and real?
- Stop allowing others to twist and pull you about. Avoid falling down by rooting your feet into the ground and stand tall and proud. Stop the onslaught of those who seek to give you a slice of suffering by reminding your soul how to live his role.
